A Little About A Lot Of Things
1. In my quest to wean Caroline, I actually counted the number of times a day she was nursing and realized it was only 5ish during the day and 2 or 3ish at night. (I know that SOUNDS like a lot but in my head she was still nursing every 2 hours so it was a nice surprise.) The first thing I did was cut her down to one night feeding, which amazingly only took one night of rocking instead of immediately shoving a boob in her mouth in my attempt to get back to bed ASAP. The next thing I’ve done is cut down the rest of our nursing sessions to one in the morning, one before nap and one before bed. I figure even if she doesn’t drop all of those before I leave they can easily be replaced with a cuddle and a cup or bottle of milk. My next goal is to drop the morning feeding this weekend, which means I’ll need to stay in bed until at least 11 am. The suffering I go through for my children.
2. The WORST part about trying to discipline my almost-3-year-old is how much it affects my 1-year-old.Yesterday we had to leave the mall right after Stroller Strides because Evan ran off into a store and wouldn’t come back. I had to be that mom I hate being, the one who shout-whispers and threatens and drags her kid around by his arm. And because I had told him he would lose his chance to play on the playground if he ran away I had to follow through and take them BOTH home. Caroline is still too little to be mad for long but I am upset she is missing out on something fun because her brother has forgotten how to understand English. It happens at home too, when I have to put Evan in time out and she loses her playmate or when I have to take away toys because he won’t share.
3. I am actually looking forward to my weigh in this week. I just need to avoid any carb-related binges between now and Thursday night. Sidenote – If you ever join Weight Watchers, DON’T weigh in at NIGHT. It’s like the total opposite of the first thing in the morning, right after you pee, totally naked weigh in 99% of America does. I swear if I was weighing in at 9 am instead I’d already be down another 5 lbs.
4. I am still obsessing over what tattoo I should get for Caroline. My Pinterest board is filling up with birds and lace but I still haven’t figured out how to make those relate to her. Denae’s idea of a “C” as a bracelet is awesome, although another wrist tattoo is kind of boring. Maybe I need 2 new ones. Or 3. Or a zillion.
5. One of the things I promised E I would do this year is look for a sponsor or sponsors for BlogHer. I am definitely going – New York is really close and I already bought a discounted ticket – but it would be nice if hanging out with my interweb friends didn’t end up costing $1000+ this time. I have absolutely no idea how to go about it and am intimidated by literally every aspect of trying to find one. On the OTHER HAND, if I can get a sponsor for BlogHer I might be able to convince E I should also go to The Blathering, which would be the most fantastic thing ever.
6. I saw a preview for a new show on Fox last night that had Keifer Sutherland on a cell phone talking about how they were RUNNING OUT OF TIME in his raspy voice and I cried a little – both because I miss 24 a crazy-pants amount and because JACK IS BACK Y’ALL. Ok, so he’s playing someone named Martin but whatevs. He will always be Jack. OHPLUSALSO, IMDB has a 24 movie listed in his credits. I have died and gone to man-bag heaven.
Tags: blogging, blogher, Caroline, little evan, random thoughts, things I love, toddlers, tv, weight
So i know you aren’t looking for parenting tips or suggestions by posting #2 and were just commenting on how it sucks for Caroline when you discipline Evan, but i thought i’d mention this in case you or a reader might be interested. if you ever decide to look for a different style of discipline, or actually, no discipline at all, i highly recommend “Unconditional Parenting”. it’s not consequence based, and is more about finding out why they are acting out in the first place, and addressing that need. super crunchy, but it’s working really well for Rory, especially since she is such a highly sensitive kid. she shuts down if we even use the wrong tone with her, so i can’t even imagine the devastation if we actually tried using a time out with her.
Oh, and i forgot to say i’m so glad the weaning is going well! IMO, if it’s not stressful for either of you, than you guys must have been ready.
#2 – OMG, I feel the same way. I feel like Brigham is constantly missing out on things or being ignored because I’m so busy disciplining or calming down my 3-year-old. Lawd, help me. I just can’t figure out how to make these horrible tantrums stop. Poor Briggy.
#4 – Have you ever thought about a snowflake? I know she was born in September so she’s your little snowflake. I might get one too. Because snowflake is my husband’s nickname for me. Yep, my skin is just that white.
#5 – I’m not sure I will go to blogher this year. I am leaning toward no and it makes me sad. But if I do decide to go it MUST be sponsored. Seriously, that was expensive!
Another perspective on #2: Someday soon, Caroline will be three and Evan will be five. It will be a total role reversal. When he wants to play nicely on the slide and she wants to be a crazy three year old that needs discipline follow-through by going home, he will have to live with that. It’s part of having a sibling. My brother and I are ten months apart. Our entire childhood was full of little injustices that couldn’t be avoided.
Congrats on the weaning being easier than you thought it would be. Our weaning was easier than I thought too. We went from eating every 2-4 hours (including 2x every night) to being 100% weaned in just one month. Hopefully it continues to go well for you.
I am agreeing with Barbara here. She’s too young to get it now; but in two or three years she will begin to learn by his example. So long as Mom and Dad are consistent; she’ll store that in her arsenal and remember that there are consequences for actions- good and bad. Siblings learn a lot from one another, and a lot from observing how the other interacts with you.
Give yourself some credit. You are doing the right thing; for BOTH of them.
If you need to, you can stay with me for BlogHer.
A zillion. Definitely a zillion. I looked at your board and fell in love. I personally dont ever want a tattoo. But those are so gorgeous I feel like I need to take up henna so I can have a new semi-permanent one every month.
I hear you about the morning vs. night weigh in. Being pregnant all I do is watch the number on the scale creep up. Of course I weigh myself in the morning in the same manner every woman does…then when I go to the doctor for an afternoon appointment I’m like, “Wait! I need to at least take off my shoes and sweater. And let me go pee first!” Ugh. It’s never pretty.
1) Wow, 2-3 times at night still? I am going to stop feeling sorry for myself re: night wakings.
2) Ugh yes, I feel the same way about my kiddos. We spend so much time dealing with Adriana that Lucia gets the shaft.
3) I need to email you about WW, I don’t think I’m doing it right (only used half my points eating normally today?!!)
4) Aww, love the snowflake idea.
5) GOOD LUCK, and not just because I will die of excitement if you come to the Blathering!