Comments on: Knowing What To Say http://bebehblog.com/knowing-what-to-say/ attack of the ginger babies Sun, 05 Feb 2012 03:34:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: ita http://bebehblog.com/knowing-what-to-say/comment-page-1/#comment-2482 ita Thu, 12 Nov 2009 22:24:56 +0000 http://bebehblog.com/?p=1970#comment-2482 Acknowledging what happened and giving her space is good, but it would be a good idea to try to contact her in a couple of weeks. Imagine how lonely she must be feeling! People around her must be feeling like you are, and won't know how to approach her to show her that they are there for her. After some time, she might be ready to "move on" (bad choice of words -she probably won't move on entirely, but you know what I mean...) and she might not know where to start. I think that when something terrible happens to you, you know people are there for you, but it is when you are trying to get back to "normal" that you really appreciate people's presence. Acknowledging what happened and giving her space is good, but it would be a good idea to try to contact her in a couple of weeks. Imagine how lonely she must be feeling! People around her must be feeling like you are, and won’t know how to approach her to show her that they are there for her. After some time, she might be ready to “move on” (bad choice of words -she probably won’t move on entirely, but you know what I mean…) and she might not know where to start.
I think that when something terrible happens to you, you know people are there for you, but it is when you are trying to get back to “normal” that you really appreciate people’s presence.

]]> By: Merin http://bebehblog.com/knowing-what-to-say/comment-page-1/#comment-2470 Merin Wed, 11 Nov 2009 19:53:58 +0000 http://bebehblog.com/?p=1970#comment-2470 A good friend of mine lost her baby over the summer (terribly sad-five and half months along). I heard from a mutual friend that she did not want to talk, especially, I assume, to someone who recently had a baby. I thought that a card with a simple 'thinking of you' theme was the most appropriate (and I made sure to leave her off my baby photo update email list). I hope your friend is doing OK :) A good friend of mine lost her baby over the summer (terribly sad-five and half months along). I heard from a mutual friend that she did not want to talk, especially, I assume, to someone who recently had a baby. I thought that a card with a simple ‘thinking of you’ theme was the most appropriate (and I made sure to leave her off my baby photo update email list). I hope your friend is doing OK :)

]]> By: FourInchHeels http://bebehblog.com/knowing-what-to-say/comment-page-1/#comment-2463 FourInchHeels Wed, 11 Nov 2009 03:50:32 +0000 http://bebehblog.com/?p=1970#comment-2463 I don't know anyone who has experienced this particular loss (and I'm sorry for you as well; I know the baby's death affects you too), but when I'm in doubt about what would be the most appreciated in a situation, you might ask other friends (sarah of a lesser god, for example) who have been through it. They'll be able to let you know what was most appreciated and what didn't work as well. I don’t know anyone who has experienced this particular loss (and I’m sorry for you as well; I know the baby’s death affects you too), but when I’m in doubt about what would be the most appreciated in a situation, you might ask other friends (sarah of a lesser god, for example) who have been through it. They’ll be able to let you know what was most appreciated and what didn’t work as well.

]]> By: Jessica http://bebehblog.com/knowing-what-to-say/comment-page-1/#comment-2462 Jessica Wed, 11 Nov 2009 00:39:41 +0000 http://bebehblog.com/?p=1970#comment-2462 I just had a friend of mine have a miscarriage about a month ago or so and all you can do is let her know you are there for her and if she needs anything to let you know. I felt like you though in not knowing what to say, but she was really appreciative of all the comments and prayers she got. I wish your friend the best and hope she gets through this tough time ok. I just had a friend of mine have a miscarriage about a month ago or so and all you can do is let her know you are there for her and if she needs anything to let you know. I felt like you though in not knowing what to say, but she was really appreciative of all the comments and prayers she got. I wish your friend the best and hope she gets through this tough time ok.

]]> By: Suzanne http://bebehblog.com/knowing-what-to-say/comment-page-1/#comment-2461 Suzanne Tue, 10 Nov 2009 22:31:35 +0000 http://bebehblog.com/?p=1970#comment-2461 I think offering your support at any time is a wonderful thing to do. People need each other, and I really believe we can never show too much love, especially in times of hardship. BTW, love the term "grief groupie." So true! And annoying. I think offering your support at any time is a wonderful thing to do. People need each other, and I really believe we can never show too much love, especially in times of hardship.

BTW, love the term “grief groupie.” So true! And annoying.

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